Friendships make all the difference in the world.
Whether you’re supporting each other through tough times, making weekend plans, or sharing secrets, the friends who have your back contribute to your overall well-being. Good friends can:
- make you feel connected
- increase your confidence
- make you happier
- inspire you to adopt healthy habits
But there’s one type of friend to watch out for, someone who calls themselves a friend, but most of the time, actually make life harder, pushes your emotional buttons, disrespects your boundaries, and makes you feel less than awesome about yourself.
- Make fun of you in front of other people.
- Leave you out of conversations or not invite you to parties.
- Embarrass you in front of your crush.
- Make you feel bad about the things and people you care about most.
- Compete with you or try to overshadow your successes with their own accomplishments.
It’s normal to have conflicts and episodes of awkwardness with friends. But, if someone acts like this most of the time, they are called “toxic friends,” or as Dr. Darlene Mininni, author of The Emotional Toolkit, said, “somebody who doesn’t see you. It’s all about them and what they need and what they want.” “Your needs are not that important,” she says, “and these relationships are not healthy.
If you think you have toxic friends, it may be time to rethink your relationship with them. If you’re wondering what to do next, check out our tips on breaking off friendships.