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Drinking and Losing Your Virginity: Why You Should Definitely Avoid Doing This Your First Time

Alcohol can be used as a way to try and cope with nerves. But...

Drinking and Losing Your Virginity

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Along with all the excitement and romance of losing your virginity often come nerves, fear, and pressure to have the moment turn out “perfectly.” This mix of feelings makes many young women turn to alcohol (whether they are legally able to drink or not) for their first sexual experience. But drinking and losing your virginity is not a good idea.

The problem, according to researcher Jennifer Livingston, PhD, author of a recently-released study called “Alcohol and first sexual experience: Risks for young women,” is that alcohol can actually make your first time less enjoyable. Not ideal.

In Girlmentum’s interview with her, Livingston talked about the variety of worries girls have about their first sexual experiences and the worries they try to mask with alcohol. They include:

  • Not feeling ready for sex
  • Fear of pain
  • Concern about getting pregnant
  • Fear that people, especially the “wrong” people would find out
  • Worry that they would “do it” wrong.

“Alcohol can be used as a way to try and cope with some of these things,” Livingston says.

However, according to her recent study, rather than making first times more enjoyable, drinking is associated with several negative effects including:

  • Less planning
  • Less talk about birth control
  • Less desire
  • More regret
  • Less likelihood that sex with that partner will happen again

Drinking and losing your virginity is NOT the stuff of fairy tales. And, beyond putting a damper on your first experience, mixing alcohol and sex can put you at risk in the future.

“Having your first experience in a place where you don’t have full control, can lead you to feel like you don’t have control or rights over your own body.” In addition, “The more you have sex under the influence, the more likely you are to run into an infected partner,” Livingston says.

In Livingston’s study, girls who didn’t use alcohol during their first times had more positive experiences. So, aside from, ahem, alcohol being illegal if your underage, that’s one more good reason not to turn to it to make your first time better. It won’t.

For tips on making your first time a better experience, check out this article.

Sources & Resources

University at Buffalo. “Alcohol and first sexual experience: Risks for young women.” ScienceDaily. ScienceDaily, 15 October 2015.

Livingston, J., Bay-Cheng, L., Hequembourg, A., Testa, M., Downs, J. “Mixed Drinks and Mixed Messages Adolescent Girls’ Perspectives on Alcohol and Sexuality.”Psychology of Women Quarterly (2013): 38-50. Web. 12 Nov. 2015.

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