Some guys don’t want to wear condoms. They may try to convince you that it’s fine to have sex without one or make excuses about why they “can’t” wear one. Just because he doesn’t want to wear a condom doesn’t mean that many of these excuses are valid, and you shouldn’t let yourself feel pressured to accept them.
If you are concerned about sexually transmitted infections or pregnancy, doctors recommend using condoms. Familiarizing yourself with some of the most common excuses a guy will make when he doesn’t want to wear a condom, and the facts behind them, empowers you.
It can help you make good decisions in steamy moments and offer useful solutions to make sex more comfortable for you and your partner.
1. “I’m too big for condoms.”
Condoms come in a variety of sizes for both length and width, and many high-quality condoms will not even break when stretched to the max with air. So, chances are, your guy will find the right fit. He (or both of you) might just have to do a little more research. You can start on some of the condom vendor websites.
2. “I’m allergic to latex.”
Being allergic to latex is a thing, but condoms do come in other materials. You can find plastic condoms (like polyurethane or polyisoprene) and animal tissue (like lambskin) at drugstores and online just like latex condoms.
You should know that plastic condoms are just as effective as latex in protecting against pregnancy and STIs, but animal tissue versions are less effective in preventing STIs.
3. “Condoms kill the mood” or “They don’t feel as good.”
It’s true that condoms can interrupt sex and they may dull down some of the sensation. However, the threat of an STI or an unexpected pregnancy also puts a damper on sex! Knowing that you are protected can actually help you relax, making sex more pleasurable for everyone.
5. “I’ll just pull out.”
Pre-ejaculatory fluid (or “pre-cum”) is a small amount of fluid released through the penis just prior to orgasm. Almost half of the time it contains active sperm. So, if he is not wearing a condom, even that little drop of fluid may be enough to get you pregnant or transmit an STI. He needs to put a condom on before any action occurs.
6. “Just this once.”
Even if you have unprotected sex just one time (including the first time), you can get pregnant or an STI.
7. “If you love me, you won’t make me wear a condom.”
If he loves you, he’ll respect your boundaries and your desire to feel safe. If he doesn’t, rethink whether you want to be with him. (We’re thinking you can probably do better.)
Even if it feels really awkward, talk about protection. Remember you always have the right to insist your partner wears a condom. You’re not obligated to have sex if you’re not comfortable, and you can say no.
Have you heard any other condom myths or excuses? Tell us in the comments.